I’ve been dealing with a lot of death lately. And while it’s just a part of life, it sure does start to make one think after awhile. So I’m using my birthday as processing time, as I am wont to do. I’m test running my death infrastructure for my birthday this year, and requesting notes from folks.
If you can see this message, it’s because I would want you to be aware of when I die. THIS IS ONLY A TEST — I am fine, everything is good, I’m just an elder goth now and I like to plan everything, even death.
This is an experiment with bureaucracy and documentation. As you know, I love LARPing Serious Business. I am doing a test run of the systems that would announce my death to the many beautiful communities I’ve had the honor of being a part of. If it was logistically difficult to get this message, when you’d want to get it, let’s improve that process — reach out. If it was emotionally hard for you to get this message, this event is probably not for you, and I’d love to see you in another context some other time soon.
On April 18th at 16:30 PT / 19:30 ET, I’m hosting a time to talk about preparing for death (not dying — they’re different. We’ll talk about ceasing to exist, not how you want to be treated while going through a however-long process of getting there). We’ll take about an hour to talk through digital estate planning (a passion of mine), and then we’ll also have some time to talk about any feelings folks might have had about thinking about death. We’ll be at this link at that time.
Selfishly this year, I’d also love notes about what we mean to each other. One of the things that’s come up time and again at the wakes I’ve been attending is wishing to have said some things before the option was no longer there. Let’s say those things to each other. I’m not looking to be shrouded or to do a mock service, I’m looking for open and honest views of who we are together. Roasting, power points, and poetry all lovingly accepted. Email to me, please, so I can label and revisit.
You do not have to do both, or either, if they’re not your cup of tea.
If you would prefer to learn about my death from an email instead of a social media post, please get me your email address and I’ll add you to the mailing list. That will be posted to before social media posts go up.
Looking forward to being inappropriately morbid with you.
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